Building Your Own Kit

 

     Its no secret that I strongly discourage ‘alternatives’ to using an actual violet wand.  Items that are not violet wands don’t act exactly like violet wands.  Yes, we all have found items, pervertables and homemades in our toybags, but not to the extent that some violet wand fetishists seem to be prone to.  Probably no other fetish niche, experiences the ‘I-want-it-cheap, who-cares-about-quality’ mindset as this niche of electro-players.

 

 

You know the people to whom quality matters.  Are you one of them? 

 

When the toybags come out, some toys are withdrawn with extreme pride of ownership.  Single tail artists proudly get out and show off their handmade kangaroo whips.  Colleagues finger them enviously and ask to work them to see how they feel, how they fit the hand and respond to the Master’s art.  Flagellists whisper what they paid for their fine double elk-skin floggers for sinuous florentine,  with a knowing smile, and heads go nodding all around.  They know quality comes at a premium; envy ensues, then comes the curiousity for where it was obtained so they can get a set too.  Cuffs and collars are admired for their hand-tooling, excellent handiwork and fittings.  You are taken aside and asked Where did you get them?   Subs and bottoms sigh to try the hand-oiled spanking paddles of exotic woods.  These folks, the majority of Scene people, wouldn’t be caught dead with the embarrassment of sub (pun intended) – standard goods, and they know quality costs more, and that quality also sets the bar.  Your ‘good’ flogger, your ‘best’ singletail, your beautifully-worked cuffs…these you take pride in and set your tone as an accomplished top or dominant–that you know quality from homemade and that you know what to do with a real tool.

 

 

But when it comes to violet wands,  it sometimes seems that proportionately more users look for the least expensive alternative, rather than quality.  This will come as a surprise to you if you are someone who is accustomed to being proud of your own toys.  But with some of these electroplayers, (and moreso than with other fetishes) there seems to be more exclaiming over the cheapness of the price paid, rather than the quality of the item.  Rather than admiring the workmanship of someone’s electrical toy, they find themselves admiring the frugal factors.
(old violet ray, circa 1944, in the camo war-era pattern. NOT a violet wand.)  

 

 

I have a few theories over why that is.

 

My first theory is that by their nature, violet wands are already exclaimed over.  Oooohs and Aaaaaahs are already present in the room as soon as you get it out and turn it on.  So a violet wand user doesn’t need to stand out from the many other paddles or singletails or floggers or bondage gear that other people have, by being better made, or an exotic wood or leather, or of an exceptional quality.  A violet wand already commands attention by its mere presence and use.  Thus, their owners already stand out from the general herd, and as such, don’t have to do anything else.

 

 

My second theory is, that since the quality of a violet wand and its accessories are not readily apparent to the eye, people care about it less.   Out of sight, out of mind, as it were.  A good single-tail artist knows a bad singletail from a good one instantly, often by sight alone.  But since quality of violet wands and accessories can only be known from using them, a violet wand user, has no visible quality-quotient that can be ‘shown off’ to others.  And people ooo-ing and aaah-ing over a wand don’t know what kind of quality it has.  Thus quality is placed at less of a premium.  Add to that, that far fewer people use wands, and there are fewer people to impress with attention to detail as a top or dominant and so these tops/dominants let their attention to quality slip to the wayside, simply because it can’t be seen with the naked eye.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thirdly, violet wands ‘can be’ expensive toys.  And being expensive, people naturally want to find ways to cut corners to spare their wallets.  Actually, I say ‘can be’ because they are not as bad as one thinks….a quality violet wand base unit costs about $100 less than the best kangaroo 16-plait singletail.  But where the violet wand can get expensive, is in all the accessories.  Then again, a violet wand does so MUCH more than a singletail, that your price paid is very small in comparison to the expansion of techniques that the different electrodes and accessories allow you. 

 

 

 

Let us take a visual side-trip.

 

 

 

Perhaps when you were just starting out in your journeys, you bought small dog collars to use as cuffs on your bottom partner.  Readily available at a pet-store the same weekend you wanted them, they were inexpensive, and they served the purpose of cuffing someone to your bedframe, even though they are made by pet suppliers for dogs.  But later, at some point in your journeys, you entered the ‘Scene’ –and at your first event saw a pair of real cuffs, made by Scene people for Scene people.  The difference in quality between your dog collars and the bondagecuffs you had in your hand was a huge gap.  Immediately you were amazed, you coveted, you admired, then you purchased.  And the difference in their use over the dog collars was obvious.  Not only did they feel better for your bottom partner, with more cushioning, more weight distribution, and obvious quality, but they felt better for you.  They were real bondage gear, made by another person in the Scene.  In buying and using them, you became a part of and a participant in, your lifestyle community by purchasing lifestyle gear from a community member.  They had made the cuffs for you, you contributed to the community by buying them, keeping the community alive.  You were now, taking ‘it’ seriously.  You were no longer an ‘amateur’ working with dog collars.  And that felt good.  You were no longer JUST one, of the 1-in-4 people who try bondage at some point in their sex life.  You were -in-.  Welcome to the lifestyle.

 

 

I would like to suggest that some violet wand players have gotten away from taking ‘it’ seriously.  Those who would promote buying cheaper alternatives to violet wands (which may work, but are not of the same quality, and are not even made for our purposes) these people are the ‘dog-collar’ contingent.  They are as much fringe to the lifestyle as they are on the fringe of fetishes as electroplayers.  ‘Get dog collars, they work the same as cuffs but are cheaper‘, is not a Scene philosophy.  It is a fringe concept.  And yet the mentality seems to surface more with electroplayers than in other fetishes, and you will definitely hear the suggestion to get a violet wand alternative since its ‘cheaper’. 

 

 

They should be embarrassed to have some of the sub-standard gear they promote.

 

 

Dude, stop using the dog collars.

Quality does matter.  It matters to your bottom partner.  Your bottom partner is worth it.  It matters to you.  You are worth it.  It marks you, and defines you, and an artist is only as good as their tools.

Get yourself a real violet wand.  You’ll be just as glad that you did, as you were when you got your real set of cuffs.

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